Yesterday, my 7-year-old son Solomon, sat crossed-legged in a chair and told me he knew of 13 girls who liked him. He proceeded to tell me their names. Now, I think this kid is pretty adorable, but thirteen girls?? Come on.
But I listened and nodded, and gave Solomon the desired, “ooohhs,” and “aaahhs,” and “wooooows”.
“Solomon, how does it make you feel that all these girls like you?”
“It’s weird mom. They stare at me in class and then want to play with me at recess. ” He twisted his pant leg in his fingers.
“Do you want to know why I think they like you?”
“Because you’re respectful and speak kind words to them. You use manners and care for others. You often hold the door open for people and wait your turn. You raise your hand in class and don’t blurt out. And you make the new kids feel welcome. I know you don’t always do these things, but you try. There’s a reason your teacher continues to place you in study groups with some of the disruptive kids in class—she thinks you can impact and influence them to make better choices.” (I also reminded him of healthy